"Nine years ago Friday, same-sex marriages started happening in Massachusetts, and the time since then has proved wonderfully unremarkable. The sky has not fallen. The earth has not opened to swallow us up."
Gov. Deval Patrick, Washington (DC) Post
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Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick signing H.3810, 'An Act Relative To Gender Identity,' in the Senate Reading Room at the State House on Thursday. (photo: Eric Haynes/Governor's Office)
May 16, 2013 | I had an uncle whose second or third wife nobody in my family liked. I don’t really know why, and I didn’t have an opinion of my own. Yet no one uttered a contrary word in their presence. We may have been poor folk on the South Side of Chicago, but we had a Victorian sense of decorum. It was generally understood both that my family disapproved and that my uncle and aunt’s marriage was nobody’s business but their own.
When I was 10, around the same time I was coming to understand my family’s attitude toward my uncle’s marriage, the Supreme Court declared it unconstitutional to prohibit blacks and whites from marrying. Now, that seems like another world ago. Interracial marriages are common today. Loving v. Virginia marked a seismic cultural shift. Yet what applied to my uncle’s marriage made sense here, too. Some things are private matters, nobody else’s business.